Making the small choices that define who you are
I’ve had to confront the fact that some of my thoughts seem to fly in the face of reality. They feel like “let’s hold hands and sing kumbaya” whereas the world around seems to be cold and harsh.
People will try to undermine you, they will disrespect you, talk you down, try to put you “in your place”. And while it is sometimes easy to say they are doing it from a place of hurt or ignorance, it doesn’t make it easier to handle. Also, we often run out of energy trying to understand or to make excuses for people.
So what do you do when “reality” seems to be kicking you in the nuts? When all that’s going on around you flies in the face of the values you’ve defined for yourself. How do you uphold in war, tenets that you designed in peacetime?
There are no easy answers. If there were, the world would be different. So it ultimately comes down to choices. Some big, some small, most of them tough. To try always to stand by what you believe, even when there seems to be no incentive to do so.
I think this is what character means. To take the long view. To be who we want to be even if we’re not that person yet.